Sunday, April 12, 2009

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

Lately I have been lamenting about the arduous life of a mother to friends and family. Avery hasn't been her angel self the last week and a half, much to our chagrin. Now I am getting a taste of what my parents went through with me. (They tell me I was a difficult baby--wouldn't sleep unless rocked or bounced A LOT, fussy unless entertained indefinitely, etc.) Sorry, Mom and Dad! But some days Avery has her moments of peaceful cuteness that I just can't get enough of.

Today is a Dr. Jekyll day--full of smiles and coos; yesterday: Mr. Hyde. It is such an extreme. Yesterday crying all day with minimal naptime. Today, no crying(hardly) and easy naptime--knock on wood. I know the lack of sleep was probably the reason for all the crying. But it's her own fault. I tried everything to get her to nap and sometimes even the shoe-in sleep methods didn't work. Like, for instance, a few days ago Avery hadn't slept all day and was incredibly fussy. So I decided to take her for a ride in the stroller. One of those shoe-in methods I mentioned. She never stays awake for a stroller ride, NEVER! But about 20 min. into the walk to the park, she woke up. At first she liked the change of scenery, looking at the sunlight and all the trees enjoying herself. Then about 15 min. later she decided to fuss and root. I was still at the park without any kind of a nursing cover. So I had to (literally) run home (which I am way out of shape FYI), and she cried the whole rest of the way home. Poor baby. I think she was going through a growth spurt and that's why she threw a wrench in my seemingly perfect schedule--she would wake out of her naps early because of hunger. Or so I think...it would be so nice if she could just tell us why the cry.

The last day or so have been much better as far as routine feedings. Now I'm just trying to establish her routine naptimes again. The book I follow--On becomming Babywise--says to not use sleep props like: swings, vibrating chairs, loud fans, etc. to get your baby to sleep. It says they need to learn to fall asleep or back asleep on their own without props. BUT it is so hard to resist these methods because they work wonders. If Avery wakes early out of a nap, I am finding it harder and harder to resist these methods because if I don't use them, she wont go back to sleep and then her whole schedule gets thrown off. When she sticks to her schedule it is baby and mommy heaven..ahhhh, sweet bliss. When she resists the schedule, we both get cranky.

My mom told me not to get too comfortable with any schedule because babies are constantly growing and changing. I know I can't keep her on the same schedule forever, and my book addresses how to change the schedule when baby requires less sleep for example..but no baby follows a book exactly.

I guess what I am wondering is: when do babies start taking just 2 or 3 naps a day? Avery seems like she wants to sleep less which is normal, but she doesn't want to sleep enough. She wants to be awake more but the more I let her stay awake and not go down for her naps, the crankier she becomes as the day goes on. Babies sure are tricky. And if you've made it this far through my little diatribe, thanks for reading :)

On a happier note, I woke up to find an Easter basket downstairs for our family!! A big surprise for Avery and me. Thanks Dear! Happy Easter, everyone!

3 comments:

Jenn said...

ahh, the joy of parenthood...Don't you wish so much that they came with manuals? Have you tried gas drops for her? She's beautiful by the way! Hang in there, it gets easier as you get to know each other better!

Christy Ivory said...

Man Heather...This is so tricky. I would have to agree with your mom on this one. If I can remember, the schedule comes a little later. I say use the swing. The babies love to feel the rocking. I used the swing all the time. Sometimes you just have to. It's the only way to get a nap now and again. Call me anytime. I can talk about this for hours. Hope she starts feeling better soon. Don't eat broc, or choc. I know my kids stayed up all night crying with those. Talk to you soon. Yes try gas drops...

Sharie McCraney said...

That sounds so familiar. My babies didn't sleep on a regular until they were about 3-5 months. Hang in there!